When gender is an issue for your kid, your reaction could be one of fear, denial, sadness, or other negative emotion that shatters your tranquility. Even the most open-minded parents report this experience once there are many unknown variables they cannot control, like other people´s reactions to their kids. Feeling tremendous anxiety is particularly true for parents who don´t have experience dealing with these situations.
Still, these days, despite all the solid research, gender diversity continues to be misunderstood and not accepted in society and even in part of the medical community that is not up to date with the research or is acting from their own cultural biases. This doesn´t help once your initial fears could be easily increased if you come across biased publications when you search for information (let´s face it, our first resource is always “Dr. Google”).
The whole situation changes when you find responsible, expert sources of information and start learning about gender development, what´s happening to your kid, what they can be experiencing, and how you can help. It´s not your fault you´ve been bombarded with the wrong information your whole life, and it´s always great to see new parents joining our community and realize things are very different from what they knew before.
In my experience helping parents, they usually feel a huge relief when we explain the basics of gender that we call Gender 101 and dispel the common misconceptions; sometimes, parents realize that they had it completely backward! You´ll be surprised, but every time I look for articles to see what´s going on in the world for the trans community, the hater ones are always the most widely spread, even if they are full of lies (yeah, they also do that).
But there is another decisive factor when they join our community, a game changer. I often see terrified new parents, not knowing what to do, change in a matter of one meeting when they witness other parents´ testimonials. They were also confused and scared, but they went through the process of learning from the experts, receiving advice, and communicating with other parents just like them, who have more experience now in their family´s gender journey and share great advice with the newcomers.
Most parents are making a significant effort to understand and help their kids, and when they first join the community, they feel they´re still not doing enough. Of course, this is a long journey, and perhaps they still don´t understand how to use proper pronouns or struggle with their kid´s affirmed name, and that´s normal, but I always tell them that just by being there, they´re already doing a lot and that they´ve come to the right place.
Having a safe space to tell us about their experience, express their feelings and ask their questions without being judged or having consequences is precious. It amazes me how some parents usually change in one meeting! Not because transitions or facing the world are easy, but because they have found a tremendous source of information and experience with people just like them, who are now feeling empowered and have healed their negative feelings.
Family support is, according to studies, the number one factor in a trans kid´s mental health, but you as a parent must deal with your feelings first and be strong to support your kid. Your family is on a Gender Journey, and there are different phases that you will need to go through. That´s why have created the support community and a hub full of resources to assist you and your family in this journey. From live meetings and Q&A sessions to expert interviews, specialized articles, workshops and so much more, we provide you with the information, support and coaching you need. You can get your membership HERE and start receiving the benefits right now.
I leave you with a mom´s testimonial of what the community means to her, in her own beautiful words:
“Thank you, my dearest families, for all your testimonials, amazing support, and so much love. No doubt that the root of every fear is ignorance. This wonderful community takes us to knowledge and understanding, therefore to acceptance, and, when we accept ourselves and our kids, we are in peace”.