Unpacking & Contextualizing Gender

A Personal Exploration for Parents

Discover Your Own Gender Journey and Build Better Connections with your Gender Expansive Kid

FALL 2024

Discover Your Own Gender Journey & Build Better Connections with Your Gender Expansive Child

This workshop is designed to help you better understand your child’s experience and find language to talk about gender expansiveness with others by exploring your own relationship to gender.

We will use interactive exercises to look closely at your own experienced the development of gender, identity, the language you use to describe yourself and others, how gender gets communicated in your family & culture, and the impact of not fitting into the binary construction of gender.

We will use a contextual lens to look at intersections of identity and unpack the experiences when we hold multiple levels of marginalization. Through this process you will come to better understand your own gender narratives, how that impacts your experience of your child’s gender exploration, and how you parent.


I’m Dr. Shawn Giammattei the founder and CEO of the Gender Health Training Institute and the humble servant of the TransFamily Alliance.

I’m a clinical family psychologist, researcher, educator, and a gender specialist (certified by the World Association for Transgender Health) who has helped hundreds of parents like you raising transgender, non-binary, and gender-expansive youth on their own gender journeys. I’m very passionate about helping parents and families in general and I’m dedicated to helping you find the clarity and confidence you need to raise a happy, well-adjusted transgender, non-binary or gender expansive child.

I’ve been running live, in person, workshops for many years with parents and clinicians that are experiential that allow us to unpack, deconstruct, and discover our own gender journeys.

I have also done this virtually with hundreds of students, and all report it was so important to their understanding of gender, of their kids, and their clients.

So I’ve designed a new custom workshop that is live, interactive, and virtual where you will have the opportunity to experience this amazing process from the comfort of your home or office. We will be turning the lens on you rather than your kid.

That’s right, this workshop is about you…

so you can understand your own journey, your own beliefs, and facilitate your own healing! This will not only help with your own gender health, but it’s the most effective way to understand your kid’s experience and uncover things you may have been unaware were influencing you.

This workshop offers you a very personal experience unpacking your own gender development along with other parents, who are also navigating their own gender journeys, and gain tremendous insight that will impact how you parent your kids.

Why Is This Helpful to You?

Unpacking Gender

In a Nut Shell:

Understanding your own Gender Journey and the cultural influences that have shaped your beliefs will help you be a better parent to your gender expansive kid and help heal some of the emotional upheaval that you may have experienced as you’ve travelled the TransFamily Gender Journey.

But why? What’s really going on?

Gender is a central construct in our current human experience and if you’re like the majority of parents raising a trans, non-binary, or gender expansive kid, your experience of gender “happened” naturally without questioning, whereas your kiddo seems to be going through a much bumpier process.

Well, if your inner sense of self as a gendered being matches the sex you were assigned at birth and your gender development happened to align with socially accepted norms you might not even be aware of your own gender journey (but you do have one, we all do!).

Gender expansive people are much more aware of this journey because of the incongruence they have experienced, whether physically or socially.

Now you may be wondering…

Why do I need to understand my gender journey since I’m ok with my gender?

Maybe ignorance is bliss, but if you’re raising a gender expansive kiddo, ignoring this may negatively impact the way you parent them and your ongoing relationship with your child.

After you’ve become gender informed and gathered all the information you can around gender and what your child may need, it’s time to spend a little time on your own experiences.

An important phase of Gender Healing which is Phase 3 on the TransFamily Gender Journey is understanding your own journey, including the cultural and social narratives that influence you.

This important healing for both you and your child. It’s through this part of the journey that you understand why you have the feelings you do about your child’s gender journey, and whatever your beliefs, find better ways to parent them in the process.

Some have even said it was fun, and all parents report that this work was absolutely necessary!

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What Will We Cover?

Here’s are some of what you will experience by the end of this workshop that will bring gender into focus and support your clarity and confidence parenting a gender-expansive kid: 

  • Understand your gender history and experiences as well as the experiences of others…including your child.

  • Describe your own development of self as a gendered being and how this has been experienced as a result of other aspects of your identity
  • Uncover the language you use to describe yourself and others and how gender is communicated in your culture

  • Analyze the personal impact of both fitting and not fitting into the binary construction of gender

  • Discover your own gender narratives and how these impact your experience of your child’s gender and how you parent


It Is Our Mission To Help You Move From Confusion And Fear To Clarity And Confidence Raising A Trans, Non-Binary, Or Gender Expansive Child.


  • Private group available for implementation, questions, and collaboration
  • Templates & Workbook
  • Personalized support
  • Plus access to 5.5 hours of interactive exercises and content

We’ll be meeting on Zoom from 9 am – 5 pm. This is an immersive, interactive experiential workshop with some didactic presentations and live demonstrations, followed by small group work on topics, and many options for Q&A. Video, PowerPoints, handouts, and workbooks are offered to facilitate learning and co-creation of materials.

Yes, it will be recorded but only the teaching portions will be retained for later viewing. If you aren’t present for the experiential exercises and the dyadic/small group breakout sessions, then you will miss the most important part of this workshop, the experience.

The price for the Workshop is $149.

** TFA members $49 (purchase link can be found inside members area)

Yes, to attend live you will need a computer, tablet, or phone with internet access, a camera and microphone.
We will be meeting in a HIPAA Compliant Zoom room.

FALL 2024. (TBA)
(*All sessions are scheduled in Pacific Time (PT)

9:00 – 10:30

  • Introductions and Agenda/Definitions & Maps
  • Recognizing Diversity of Experience Exercise
  • Understanding Gender in Context /Break out
  • Deconstructing Gender Questions

10:30 – 11:00 Break

11:00 – 1:00

  • Gender Interviews /Break Out
  • Discussion of Experience of Interview
  • Intro to Values/Culture & Gender
  • Q&A

1:00 – 2:00 Lunch

2:00 – 3:30

  • Understanding Your Value System
  • Uncovering Cultural Stories around Gender
  • Small Group Discussion of Cultural Impact

3:30 – 4:00 Break

4:00 – 5:00

  • Large Groups Discussion of Gender Narratives
  • The Impact of all of this on parenting
  • Q&A

This is a day-long experiential workshop for parents and caregivers with transgender, non-binary, gender expansive, and gender questioning children as well as providers who work with gender diverse youth.

This workshop is for parents/caregivers who are willing to jump in and turn the lens on themselves, their experiences, and courageously engage with the exercises.  It is through the experience that you better understand your child and yourself.

If you want to be a passive observer of the process, this workshop is not for you.

In case you change your mind, or you can’t attend the Workshop, no worries! Just contact us at our email [email protected], and we will issue you a refund!

Are there any bonuses you’ve added?


Bonus # 1

You will have access to an online private unpacking gender group where you can continue the conversation and exploration with other parents who have taken this journey, and pose questions for Dr. Shawn. Resources from the workshop will be posted in the group along with recordings once they’re ready to be shared.

Bonus #2

You will also have free access to the TransFamily Alliance General Network, where all TransFamily Parents can connect with other parents and get notifications about important news affecting your kids and families.

What Participants Found Most Helpful

I found the breakout rooms helpful in gaining a deeper understanding of some of the challenges other parents/caregivers were experiencing vis a vie their loved ones, and how best to advocate on their behalf. It also allowed time to dive deeper into the topic being discussed. For me, I like to get into the weeds and essence and have found that can be difficult at times with a large group.

Alexander R., parent

I appreciated hearing other parents’ concerns and experiences as well as those from providers. Being able to participant in the workshop with questionnaires was revealing and poignant. Although parents and providers weren’t supposed to group together, we did, and I found hearing their perspectives was valuable just as much as hearing from other parents.

Dianne T., parent

I appreciated being able to hear other parents and providers talk about their experiences with trans kids, whether their own or otherwise. Seeing the reactions of other parents when someone else says something that rings a bell of truth to them also felt supportive like everyone was in the same boat. In the breakout groups we found it helpful to have a pop-up reminder of how much time we had left.

Lesli M., parent

The small group discussions were very helpful. I appreciated hearing from both parental and clinical views on subjects of gender biases and leveraging privilege. I also found the materials presented to be very useful in framing the topics discussed. Finally, Dr. Giammatei’s exceptional navigation of nuanced and emotionally-laden topics was an honor to witness and learn from.

Anne T., parent

Being able to explore perceptions, thoughts, and feelings around a variety of topics and have in depth conversations with others around them.

Joanne F., parent

The preparatory homework was really helpful as was the pre-workshop webinar that i viewed as a recording. i watched most of it. the pre workshop activities helped me get familiar with the material and help myself to get into a helpful headspace.

Kevin B., parent

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